I know that it’s difficult to talk to people who don’t have your best interests at heart, but you have to make the effort to listen and try not to be an asshole.
It’s easier to be cool and be nice than to take the bait.
That’s the truth.
You need to know when to give people the benefit of the doubt.
The only time I can really recommend the “I know you’re lying, I just want to make sure you’re honest and that you have a good reason for not telling me” strategy is if you want to talk about something with someone who might not be able to hear your thoughts and needs.
If you can’t trust someone to tell you the truth, don’t talk to them at all.
I’ve been called “dirtier” by friends who I can’t even remember names for because of a “fictional” situation that’s been brewing for months.
They were trying to understand why I hadn’t told them about my new job and I was struggling to keep my composure.
They’d called me out for being “dirty” and said I didn’t want to know.
“Don’t get mad,” I replied.
“I’m a journalist and I know what you’re doing, and I’m going to tell the truth.”
I tried to be polite.
“It’s OK,” I said.
“There’s a good chance I’m not going to be able get through to you.
I’m afraid I might not get the job.”
The person I was trying to talk with was a reporter who was going to do an article about me and I’d be the first person they’d interview.
He’s a really smart guy who is a reporter himself, and he’s had a lot of success doing that.
The article is still under consideration, but I told him I was interested.
He called me on Monday.
I didn “get it” until he asked me if I wanted to be in the story.
I told my friend I didn.
I said that I thought it was a good idea to do it because I think it would help to build some trust.
He was a little confused, but he told me to keep an open mind and I did.
We talked a bit and then I texted him and he agreed.
I texted my friends back and they were a little more cautious about calling me because I was “trying to be a friend.”
I’m a reporter.
I don’t like to be called dirty.
I hate being called out for what I’m doing.
I feel a little better because I can be honest about it.
It sounds like he thinks I’m trying to be rude, but when you’re in the middle of a story and you’re being honest with your readers, you’re not actually trying to deceive them.
You’re trying to build trust.
But I’m also a journalist.
I can tell you I’ve never had a friend tell me they couldn’t trust me and that I wasn’t lying.
I have friends who have told me I’m lying about something, and that they feel a lot better because of it.
I also know that there are people who are really good at being nice, and they’re also honest and caring people.
It doesn’t matter what you are or what your story is.
They’re just going to want to hear it and trust you.
They’ll understand why you’re trying so hard to tell them the truth and how it feels to be misunderstood.
So it doesn’t make sense to call me dirty, but it is nice to know that if you’re getting called out on it and you want it to go away, you can talk to me and say that it doesn.
I get it.
The truth is, you have no control over what happens in your life.
Sometimes it’s hard to get a conversation going when it’s just you and the person you’re talking to.
I know I’ll be honest with you if I can and I hope that you’ll respect that.
But you have the power to take back control of your life if you just put yourself in my shoes and ask yourself what you want.